Saturday, August 30, 2008

I Did It!!!

Okay, here is Henry's birth story:

I woke up a few times Tuesday (August 26) night to contractions and thought they felt a little stronger than the previous ones I had had, but just went back to sleep each time. Wednesday (August 27) morning I woke up at 7:00 and I told Devin to go to work and I'd let him know if they continued. Well, at about 10:00 I was still having them and they had been consistently 5 minutes apart. (That's 3 hours of consistent contractions and my doc said if I had 6 in an hour to head to the hospital, but I wasn't ready to go. I didn't want to labor at the hospital and I thought I'd have lots more hours to go, so I did some ironing, cleaning, put clothes away, you know, the usual Wednesday morning stuff...) They seemed to be getting a little stronger, but not by much. I texted Devin the times of my contractions and thought he'd call if he thought it was serious, but I didn't hear from him, so I figured I was probably just excited for no reason and it wasn't really a big deal. When he called on his lunchtime, he said he didn't get the texts because his phone was on silent. He really did think it was serious and we decided I would go to my parents' house because it was only 20 minutes from the hospital instead of 40 from our house. He said he'd tell his teacher and come meet me.

So, at about noon, I got our hospital bags, filled the car up with gas, and drove to my parents'. I was afraid my contractions would slow down if I sat in the car and they did. They went to 15 minutes apart. I was a little discouraged after thinking this was it and now they were slowing down! I was tired, but I knew I couldn't rest if I wanted them to keep coming. When Devin got to my parents' we went for a walk. They moved to about 2 minutes apart and were strong enough that I had to stop walking during them.

After the walk, I decided I wanted to get in a cool bath because the walk had made me pretty warm. It was a really humid day. When I got out of the tub it was about 2:00 and the contractions felt pretty serious. I really had to focus on relaxing during them so they could do their job. I decided it was time to go to the hospital.

My mood was changing and I was getting grouchy...Devin needed some socks to wear and I asked my dad if he could borrow some from him. He was watching Planet Earth with Jaxon and responded with, "Yeah, go check in my drawer." I just gave him a look and said, "Are you serious?" In my mind I was thinking, "Do you see what's going on right now? I'm gonna have a baby soon and you want me to go digging through your drawer to find some socks so you don't have to get up from your oh-so-interesting nature show. How about you get up and go find them!?" He got it and went to find some.

We walked out to the car, but went back in so my dad and Devin could give me a blessing. I was glad my mom suggested it because I had wanted one, but forgot about it as my mood got more serious. It was a sweet moment and it brought me peace, but I did tell them to hurry because I knew we needed to get to the hospital asap!

We left at 2:30. He and I drove in our car and my mom followed in her's. In the car, the contractions got quite serious. I know the stages of labor and one of the very end stages is wanting to give up and give in. I had reached this point with Jaxon and asked for an epidural. This time, it wasn't even on my mind. I did want to give up, but in a different way. It wasn't about "the pain." I didn't see it as pain. It was about just wanting to see my new baby. I remember saying, "I just want it to be over. I want to see Henry." I didn't even consider drugs for relief this time. The only thing I could think of for relief was to get that baby outta there! My mind really had set my body to do it on my own, just like I wanted! (I definitely underestimated myself because I didn't think my mind was that strong, but it IS!) Devin told me that we would see him soon and encouraged me to keep relaxing.

I recognized the signs of the stage I was in, but didn't trust my body and the feeling I had been taught would come naturally because Jaxon's labor was so much longer I thought there was no way I was really at this point already. I kept telling Devin to go faster because from the passenger seat it looked like he was going under the speed limit! Definitely a way to anger a woman in labor: make her think you are going under the speed limit while on your way to the hospital!

We got there at 2:50. Devin asked if I wanted him to drop me off while he parked the car and I got mad and told him he couldn't leave me. Then I thought, "Wait, I can't walk from the car!" so I told him to park and go get a wheel chair. He ran and got one. (I knew he ran because I noticed he was out of breath when he got back and I was thankful he hurried.) Devin grabbed the bags and my mom wheeled me up to the 2nd floor. They took us right to Room 7 and this big guy nurse got out a pee cup for me to pee it--like that was happening! I was moaning and saying things like, "I need to push!" and "He's coming! Now!" There was no time to pee!

So, I climbed up on the bed--no time for an IV, hospital gown change, paperwork, or anything--just like I wanted. I was on all fours, which was a birthing position I saw in a book and was totally turned off to at the time, but in the moment of giving birth, it was the exact position my body was comfortable with; it was where I wanted to be.

There were 2 nurses who said they needed to check me to see if I was really ready to push. I told them I was and they didn't need to check me. They insisted and it took one of them about .0001 seconds to "check" and see that I definitely was ready to push. She responded with, "Yeah, she's complete and plus 3" meaning I was fully dilated (at a 10) and the baby's head was 3 inches out of the pelvis bone, well on its way out! They told me I had to wait because the doctor wasn't here. Yeah right! I wasn't waiting for anyone! In reality, I didn't really need to be pushing at this point. The contractions were doing the work--no pushing needed from me! I did my best to kind of hide the fact that I was going with the contractions rather than fighting them like they wanted, but like I said, I couldn't stop contractions!

One nurse, Shari, told me to look at her and I told her I didn't want to. I wanted her to leave me alone. I was doing what my body wanted to do. It was amazing. I wasn't scared or thinking about pain or anyone around me. I was determined and going to have this baby right now! It was the most natural feeling (kinda gross to compare, but like a bowel movement, just relax and trust your body and it will do its think, no help needed).

The nurses finally realized that we weren't going to be able to wait for the doctor, so they prepared to "catch." With one contraction they said they could see that the bag of waters was still intact and under it was the baby's head. With the next contraction I pushed out the head and the water broke. I felt this big pop and was a little worried it was me that had popped! But, luckily it wasn't me; it was the bag of water!

Now the nurses could see that the cord was around Henry's neck. Shari told me I needed to stop pushing so they could fix it. Immediately upon hearing that, I was able to come out of this "zone" I was in of letting my body do what it wanted to and focus and control my body. The thought of possibly harming my baby was powerful enough to bring me back and control the pushing. That was a pretty cool moment.

They fixed the cord and with the next contraction, at 3:19 pm, the rest of his body came out (Devin said "he just shot out") and it was amazing! I didn't feel any pain. I was overwhelmed with happiness, surprise, relief, excitement, and a sense of accomplishment.

The placenta came with the next contraction and it was named "healthy" by the nurses. The doc showed up after that (I was a little bummed my doc wasn't on call, he's great, but this doc was good too). She saw he baby was out and she wasn't really needed. I was crying and she asked if I was sad. I told her, "Nope, I just can't believe I did that!" And said it like 10 more times..."I can't believe I did that! I can't believe I did that!"

It was the most awesome experience. Devin was in tears too. He said I was amazing and he was so proud of me:) That's just the word I would use to explain it, "amazing." It really was. It's nothing to be afraid of, but something that I wish every woman could experience. And I wish more women had the desire to experience it and would try it. It was such a wonderful moment to be able to bring our baby into the world rather than not being able to feel anything like when I was medicated last time. Plus, the recovery has been so much better! My face looked much better this time and I felt great right after he was born and the swelling is SO much less! I definitely believe any woman can do it--if she WANTS to and she prepares and educates herself for it (and there are no medical complications). The mind is strong and plays a big role in allowing the body to accomplish the task. Labor is that--labor, but definitely do-able.

I love my little baby Henry and I couldn't be happier with how everything went. It was an experience I'll always remember. It's so fun to be a parent and have sweet little kids in our home. We are so blessed!

Cheers to all moms!


Jen said...

you are amazing..i was in awe the entire time reading your are such a strong mama, i can't get over it!! And the fact that "he just shot out" cracks me up!

Candice said...

I'm soooooo happy for you Ruthann!! Just hearing your story makes me get all excited again, it sounds like it went so awesome! I hope you and Henry are doing well at home. Let me know if you guys need anything (... if you would like Jaxson to come over for a bit sometime?)

I just got back from a camping trip but I would like to bring you guys a meal! I'll be contacting you soon!

Jami said...

I loved it! I really love that you didn't have to have an IV, or any cords! That was seriously my LEAST favorite part of the labor. I love that you told the nurse off...sometimes I don't have enough courage to stick up to nurses or doctors, but I am so glad you did.
I am so glad it was such an amazing time for you and Devin. I seriously think it is just beautiful what you did, and I am so proud and impressed!

Mollie said...

Congrats! I think you guys are amazing. Way to go!

Kiera said...

AMAZING!!! i'm soooo glad you did it!! I knew you would but it sounds amazing... are so strong!! That would be sooo hard for so many people! Your body was totally meant to carry these little babies:)... Hopefully I can experience that with one of my children sometimes.. id have to braveup hahha!!!

Anonymous said...

Congrats! I am impressed! I'm glad that everything went how you wanted it to. Way to stand up for yourself! Your two boys look so cute.

The Wright Family said...

Hey Ruthann! It's been awhile, but I stumbled upon your blog and am so amazed by your birth story! I'm due with my first baby in about 5 days now. In the beginning of my pregnancy I did a lot of reading and kind of decided I wanted to try going natural, but, of course everyone just laughed at me, so I kinda gave up on the idea. But after reading your story it makes me want to re-think that direction! Any advice on how I could 'quickly' educate myself a little more in case I try to go for it?? :)

Herberts said...

Way to go Ruthann! I am so proud of are amazing! I recently added the blog tracker to my blog and check everyday to see if your blog pops up with a new post, but nothing. I figured something must be up so I checked and apparently when I added the tracker, your url didn't get added. I am so happy to finally get to see these cute little pics of Henry! I cannot believe your story and am completely amazed! You are so strong and I couldn't be happier for you! What a cute little family!

Sonda Bryce said...

Ruthann... this was like reading a novel! I couldn't put it down! I am so proud of you for going all natural. With my first two there was no time for drugs as I went so quickly, but I loved that and always said it was like running a marathon. You can't believe that your body really can do it! It is such an amazing experience and makes me so thankful to be a mom. Thanks for sharing your story and let me know if you need anything. I can't wait to see little Henry! CONGRATULATIONS Girl!

Tom and Kassie said...

WOW!! You are one brave woman!! I am so impressed with your strength. I love to hear labor/delivery stoies, thanks for sharing:) Congrats girl!!

Carrie Carp said...

Oh my word, you just brought tears to my eyes! That is what I'm hoping for next time... I wanted so badly to do that the last time but the baby was footling breach, which is impossible to have naturally and not harm or kill the baby. C-sections are TERRIBLE!

Ruthann, thank you so much for your post! I will be searching even HARDER to find a doctor that will agree to a VBAC because I want to follow in your footsteps. Congratulations and I wish you the best of luck!

ashwes said...

RUTHANN!!! Seriously i am so impressed that you did that on your own :) way to go! What an experience! YOure one tough lady! Im glad things are going well. you look fabulous!
love you guys!

Fiona said...

Ruthann, you don't know me but I remember your husband from high school. I'm from Mesa. Anyway, I saw your comment on one of Holly Decker's blog posts and wanted to read your story. I, too, am a hypnobirthing mom and I have a website I thought you might like. It's Check it out! That's an awesome story and I feel the same way you do about wanting more women to experience this. It truly is amazing!


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